Hiyaa!
It’s been a minute; been taken up here and there but trust me I missed you all!
It’s been sweet sour life here but filled with blessings and favor. Of recent, it was my mother’s birthday and I couldn’t wait to be the first person to call her at midnight sing for her and wish her a happy and blessed birthday. I felt this could be a better thing since am far from her kind of fixed to make for her a surprise perhaps will make it in the near future like I did for her husband. I indeed called her though not at midnight but before 5:30am and this must have been one of my best moments in life.
At the beginning of this year, following the fall of my follower (Lawrence R.I. P) in the mid of last year, I made a resolution of doing whatever it takes to see a smile on the faces of my father and his wife; however, I wasn’t sure how I was going to do it but one of the things I thought about was showering them with my unending stories(funny), gifting and surprises just in case God had given me the ability. I know the economy was looking at me with the face of am shocked that you are making resolutions forgetting that your balance sheets need a better word of deficit hahah!!!!
Not until today, I didn’t know the weight of love and joy that comes with calling a loved one just to sing for them for example a happy birthday song; I was doing this for the first time but I was not sure whether it would make a lot of sense or not but I think it did make a lot of sense. After the call, I started to prepare for my day; I always have a long day so the preparations take quite a long time as well. During this one and a half hours, I for the first time pondered and meditated about the life of an African mother, that typically African black woman who tills the land under the sun to make ends meet, that mother who never went far with education, has to stay on the street so a to make ends meet among other hard jobs. What does it feel like to be that African mother?
What does it feel to be that typical black mother whose role is to give birth to children as many as you can, work hard to see that those children are happy, make sure your husband is happy and at a point have your own desires and feelings caged so as to see them happy? Do we sit down and also think about these women or they live in some part of Africa?
Today we have many organizations and individual women who have taken up the stage to fight for the equality of women; the man and woman are equal, what a man can do, a woman can do as well. But how are we going to uplift and fight for the rights of a woman when it is still us women who are degenerating our fellow women??? Like how? Does it make sense for you to stand out there and claim that you are fighting for the rights of other women when you still underpay your house-help?, when you still treat her like a failure and a misfit in the society, you still see her as a slave??
What about if we try to solve the discrepancies between the women in the formal sector and those in the informal sector; may be this can be ideal in the race of fighting for the rights of women. Having different circles here and there doing the fighting with less ground work is like building a house without a foundation. Injecting a lot of money in urban and formal conferences will make a lot of sense if we also do a lot of scratch work or else we are building a house that is collapsing soon because it lacks a foundation.
Its just a thought that we women can try to look out for fellow women, lets empower them and have them feel the importance of fighting for their rights or else some of them will get so comfortable thinking its okay and normal to be buttered and perhaps suffer just because you are a woman. The voices on social media and different conferences can also be done in the lower sectors (informal sectors) where these women can be made aware of their rights; they should know that they have a say in the society and they are just as good and worth as those women who put on stiletto’s, hold that designer bag clad cute in designer suits and clothes and walk to the office.
Ohhh!! Feel like I should write a series about this,, it deserves a long time of discussion…will do a series about this topic!
Its been a good time here….see yah!!!!!
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